Planning my Nigerian wedding in the U.S. was such an experience. we opted for a two day event, Thursday night for our traditional wedding and Saturday for our
church and reception. We give God all the glory because they were both two remarkable days.
Anyone who knows me, knows how much I love Yoruba culture, and I specifically enjoy everything about the traditional rites of wedding. Yes it can be repetitive and predictable perhaps that’s part of the fun. You know exactly what’s going to happen.
During traditional Yoruba wedding, the groom will come out with his friends, and they will have to prostrate and do a bunch of other funny gestures to prove that he is ready for marriage; I find it both amusing and entertaining.
So like every other girl I was looking forward to all of these things. What I didn’t realize were the complexities of planning both my traditional wedding and White/religious wedding in the U.S.
Let me provide you a little background, I helped plan both of my older brothers’ wedding in Nigeria, down to purchasing the wedding gowns, getting caterers, bakers, decorators etc on their behalf. It was mind blowing to realize that it was easier to plan a wedding that took place in Nigeria from the United States, than it was to planning a wedding that actually took place where I reside.Things that I thought would be simple to accomplish came with so many complications. Catering was one of the biggest hurdles that we faced. There were so many layers to this.
1. Finding a venue that will allow outside catering
2. Finding caterers that can accommodate our extensive many for our large crowd. We quickly learned the inflated pricing of the food items
3. Some caterers only cooked and didn’t purchase the food.
4. Caterers didn’t supply chaffing dishes etc, while some did.
5. Figuring out the types of licenses/certificates the caterers had, because of our venue was particular about the type of certification needed.
6. Drinks had to be purchased from specific vendors
7. Liquor license needed
8. Liquor liability insurance because in the case that a wedding guest, get hurt or drives home while intoxicated and gets in an accident, the hosts ( Bride and Groom) can be held responsible.
9. Police detail ( mainly because some venues had bad experiences with Nigerian events becoming overcrowded)
These are just a few of the issues we faced during our planning. These issues came up sporadically. I am not the first to have such an experience with planning my Nigerian wedding, so I wondered why no one talks about it, and help a sister out (LOL). I wish I had some sort of resource out there or group that would have allowed me to better prepare myself for what was ahead. I took some time after my wedding to document my experiences and others' similar experience and compiled this eBook. The Ultimate Guide to planning your Nigerian wedding in the U. S.
The guide will be your best friend as you check off items on your planning checklist. It contains comprehensive questions to ask each vendor and the lays out the details you need to wrap your head around.
I wish you the absolute best as you plan your beautiful day and I wish you a stressLESS planning.
Feel free to leave some comments below, share some of your planning highs and lows and maybe we can be able to help the next girl out .